Original Statement

 

This is the original statement

We are "Partners in Believing".  We believe in each other.  We are each on a separate journey of mastering our minds.  We recognize that we are making free choices. We share our accomplishments and dreams to strengthen our vision.  We offer support to each other.  We are not defined by our circumstances.

The reason I updated my statement is because I am about to make this blog a lot more public than it is now.  It is time to really generate "Partners in Believing".  (I will read through each post and lock each one that I believe could have a direct reflection on anybody I know that could cause them harm.) I have chosen to share with people in my life who I believe are really expanding their belief in themselves but it is not leading to a visible expansion.  This is caused by me, not them. It is a reflection of my action or lack of action in my world. 

Sharing our(my) growth is incredibly important.  It is very easy to reach out on Facebook to private groups whose interests revolve around growth and change but the challenge I believe we must all face is where we hold ourselves accountable for acknowledging our own expansion.  I'm not talking of bragging or promoting.  I'm talking of honestly facing what has been holding us back and how we release that hold on us one step at a time.  And then taking that to the next level by purposely practicing self awareness in every action we take.

The following is an example of what I mean about self awareness and talking about it.

Shame floods me at inappropriate times and for ridiculous things. Once I identified shame I explored where it came from and found that it has been in my life since I can remember and has more than one source.  I even discovered that I share my vulnerabilities with people who shame me more. 

Not everybody who shames me intends to do that.  An example I have shared before is where somebody much smaller than me tells me how fat they are.  Another example is when someone apologizes to me for how untidy their home is.  These comments cause me to reflect on how I fail to meet their expectations.  I am both fat and untidy.  

So what have I been doing about this?  The first and most important thing is to remove myself from their company.  This doesn't mean I don't love or care about them.  It means, that I have to take the time to heal or at least scab over the wounds so that others do not inadvertently cause me more distress.  As, I heal, it becomes clear how to discern the people who mean me no harm from the ones who do.  

People who deliberately manipulate others using shame or ridicule have their own inner demons.  It is my challenge to remind myself that they may keep their demons.  I don't need to share them.  As I become stronger, I can detach from their energy.  The more I detach, the more I am able to nurture my strengths and attend to my needs.  The better I care for myself, the more value I have to offer where it is truly needed.

Current Statement

I believe in me.  I am on a journey of mastering my mind.  I recognize that I am making free choices.  I share my dreams and accomplishes by writing them down and telling safe people about them to strengthen my vision.  I support me in all that I do.  I am not defined by my circumstances.