Mastermind Blog

Over the last two days, Teia has sent me some truly great links.  These short presentations don't take long to listen to and are well worth it.  This is what I'm looking for as we share with each other.  Teia has embraced change even though it is terrifying for her and she feels that she is a failure, she keeps standing back up and giving it another go.  I am proud of you Teia!   This article is not in her voice.  It is about the links she shared with me. I learned a lot about Gaslighting during therapy sessions and have been surprised at how much of this has gone on in my life.  It is so much easier to let go of the opinion of others now.  I also learned that anyone challenging my intelligence, my heart, or simply trying to coerce me by forceful speaking, is not interested in my well being.  These people are serving their own agenda and the longer and louder they try to convince me, the more certain I am that I need to step ba...

I believe in love.  Love of animals, love of nature, love of family, love of friends, and love of life.  My first instinct when asked what I believe in, is to say that I dislike hate.  I asked myself why I would answer a question backwards that way.  The quick answer is habit.  I learned it somewhere.  Old habits are things I'm questioning deeply these days.  My previous blog post was about being overwhelmed and I think that being overwhelmed makes the hate comments more weighty to me.  I have always had enough of my own problems.  Listening to hate rants is far too daunting and cumbersome.  It isn't inspiring, uplifting, or motivational. I'm sure that I have made conversation weighty and cumbersome for others in the past too. I apologize and hope not to do it again. This morning the sun is rising and even though my window is grubby from a cat asking to be let in on a regular basis, the sun still shines through.  A thick patch o...

Overwhelmed: One definition as a verb: "Bury or drown beneath a huge mass." I always perceived the word to mean, "I give up because there is too much to do."   I have always been buried beneath much more than one person could accomplish but I didn't drown.  I didn't give up. I did reach a point about 5 weeks before Ben died where I thought I couldn't take another step but I cried myself to sleep and when I woke up in the morning I was ready to go at it again.  That week I had to leave him at the hospital for 3 days and I got some much needed rest.  That got me through the last month of his life. I look back even farther at being a parent of 4 children at seventeen years old and I had to be overwhelmed but I only knew it the day Ben's ex-wife tried to move in with us.  I called my mother and she came and got her and took her away. The day the Land Commander travel trailer fell off of the trailer hitch as I entered the black top was another tim...

There are a lot of articles about forgiveness on the Internet.  There are a lot of books written about forgiving.  It is an extremely valuable topic that we deserve to explore more deeply.  Somehow it is easy to say and often I think I have forgiven but I recently began taking an action that has freed me more than I could have imagined.   I send a picture to a person on Facebook that causes a list of names to pop-up.  One of the names on that list is a person who I need to forgive.  I'm giving myself credit for not giving up sending a humorous picture to someone who really needs to laugh more.  It was painful to see this other person's name every day.   I listened to a speaker who said to speak the forgiveness words out loud.  I grudgingly started doing it instead of trying to be faster at typing in the correct name.  I didn't like doing it.  I could tell that I wanted to be mad at this person.  I questioned mysel...

Emerald Aisle Farm Master Mind Meeting January 4, 2017 I am not defined by negative circumstances. I am not defined by other people’s opinions. RULES: 1.     No negativity.   We honor each other always in a positive light without criticizing in any way. 2.     We must remember to find something to approve of in each person at the meeting and say so to them. 3.     We listen to the speaker without interrupting until question time, unless otherwise directed by the speaker. Our next meeting is January 4, 2017 at 7:30 PM If you are earlier than that please respect our Adult Children of Alcoholics Meeting Our previous meeting was inspirational!   It was a dark and foggy night that leant a surrealistic aura to the event.   Even with several heaters we were freezing before we were finished, but I for one, was not daunted, only inspired to find new ways to upgrade the meeting area.   Holly shared her A...

Dear Members of this Mastermind Group, For now, if you have a comment, please put it in the comment section of whichever post you are reading.  I don't know how many words a comment allows for but I'm not limiting you on words. All I am asking is that you remember we are partners in believing and we are remarking positively on each others experience.  We are also presenting our own experience in the positive light of growth, accomplishment, and change.  A deep understanding of a topic is also acceptable. This form of media allows us to use this platform to support our growth without the time constraints of a meeting. If you want to type up your article and send it to me at carmendavis6@gmail.com, I will post your article as a separate post.  Make sure you note whether or not you want me to edit it as in punctuation or missing words ETC. Today I hope that you take notice of the light and love that is always visited on you.  Love, Carmen

Welcome to our mastermind blog! It is definitely time to change up the pace of our mastermind meetings!  Even though I say the word "our", this is definitely my baby.  I'm laughing because over the last several months there has only been one person beside myself responding to the meetings.  That tells me that they aren't serving you in a way that brings you back.   My feelings are not hurt.  This is not about my feelings.  This is about my growth and drawing partners in believing.  It is a test of my commitment to my growth.  I spent those meetings alone, having a meeting with myself and bringing much to light. They were meant to be. My challenge has been to keep the faith.  As incredible as it sounds I have actually found that much easier to do as a single woman than as a married woman.  That tells me that I was not in relationships that supported my growth.  I love my women friends but I am not needy or clinging to them i...